Personal Inventory

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In about 4 hours I’m walking into a room of about 50 people and sharing what used to be my deepest dark secrets. Today they’re just facts about my life experiences. I’m still a bit nervous (understatement) because public speaking to more than 2 or 3 people is a new experience for me. Any time we do something for the …

Are You Investing In Your Child

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Are you investing in your child’s recovery or in their addiction? I’ve spent a lot of years going through revolving doors of addiction with my daughter. Between rehabs, apartments, treatment options, and everything else you can imagine, my former wife and I have spent a fortune of money and, more importantly, precious time (years) trying to help her fight this …

Delivering Value

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Building relationships with mentors starts by you delivering value to them. This was a tough one for me. Coming out of years of addiction I wasn’t sure that I had much value to deliver to anyone. This is the “shame” component that goes along with being an addict. I’d spent so many years in isolation that I really didn’t have …

How I Trashed My Credit Score

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Recently my wife and I made a decision to stop paying the mortgage on the home we lived in for 14 years. It was extremely difficult for so many reasons. Number 1 we had raised our 2 youngest children there for most of their lives. Secondly, it was a symbol of triumph for Kristin and because when we met 3 …

FINDING YOUR MOJO

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I remember when I first started out on this awesome journey and people would ask me what I wanted in life. I’d say things like I just want to be happy or I want to have the freedom to live my dreams or I want to be financially independent. These are all great dreams to have but what does that …

FEELS LIKE THE FIRST TIME

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I remember the first time I kissed a girl. Her name was Pam. I knew right then I was in love. I was going to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. We were going to have three kids and live in a nice home in the country. I wasn’t sure where the kids would come …

Playing the Shame Game

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I was at an event a while back where we were being trained for professional speaking. I was so excited because I’ve always wanted to be on stage making people happy. Originally it was a dream of being a rock and roll singer for some famous band but that got short circuited. I grew up believing strongly in sex and …

W.O.R.K is a 4 Letter Word

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As part of my unlearning process I’ve decided to redefine some of the words that I use. Some of them need to be removed from my vocabulary altogether because they don’t serve me in any way. Words like “should”. “Should” is a word that I only use when I’m judging myself or others and I’m not qualified to be a …

No Wasted Days in 2015

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So here we are. The final day of 2015. As I reflect on this past year with gratitude, I’m taking a little inventory on what I’ve accomplished this year. Being my own harshest critic, my tendency is to be disappointed in all the things I could have done. But I’m not going there this year. There are no such things …